“LOST IN TRANSLATION”

I gave a speech recently on a subject “Success or complete failure” at Ukrainian school of mental genetics where I discussed deluded concepts of life that lead people into feeling of failure, disappointment, weakness and even depression in some cases. I had a few experiences of my own that gave me a good foundation to open a “can of worms”.

Over the last 2 years, ever since my partner & I opened our PEcado boutique Downtown Petoskey, I came in contact with so many women who showed their insecurity, lack of confidence, fear and other destructive emotions and behaviors in one way or another when it came to their body. I hear all the time: “I wish I was skinnier, I would wear these clothes” or “I used to be 100 pounds back in old days and now I am… ”. In many cases I hear a note of sorrow in their voices and noticed that their focus was on comparing themselves to their younger selves or to other women not in a positive way but much more in a negative.

Comparing yourself to other people is a dead road – we all know. If not, I ‘am happy to explain ideas behind this statement privately or in my next blog if there is a request. Normally, I would have nothing against comparing yourself to a younger version of yourself, though in this case the comparison in many cases was still against present self. Instead of giving points for all of their achievements in life to themself, these women were debiting them leaving their personal interpretation of who they today are with a negative balance. If only body size is the only criteria that defines you as a successful woman!!! I guess good for those who are semi-tall, semi-proportionate and pretty according to today’s social norms. But about those who were born 5.4” tall and there is nothing you can do about it? Well, that’s when negative and destructive ideas start to attack your mind to make you believe that you were robbed, deprived from birth, leaving many with resentment that grows into other physical deviations including weight gain (the enemy of human’s body). The true meaning of who we are as human creatures for many has been “lost in translation”  and with that, this evil cycle of constant self-resentment is so typical for today’s society that it even became a norm.

I can certainly understand these women as I had been in the same shoes for many years. I compared myself to others, admired them for good looks, skills, ability to use their talents and at the same time I was bashing myself. I put them on a pedestal over my own persona. This is ludicrous!!

We spend so much time worrying about what other people may think about us, worry about our looks, that many go into light and heavy face treatments, body treatments that include plastic surgery etc. We focus so much on the physical aspect that we forget what our own purpose is. Many don’t even know what it is… living day by day in a survival mode like it is a Groundhog Day. We forget that we were given a soul and mind – the most important part of our us.

To be kind to others, honest and faithful, loving, direct, productive, purposeful, … – this criteria have been pushed aside for some reason until the law of retribution (also knows as karma) faces you.

Of course, many of these are genetic factors along with accumulated life experiences that form into individual law of existence or pattern of behavior but until we continue to follow society’s impulse without thinking for ourselves, we ‘ll stay in the same law, taking away the most important from our own self – the beauty of life progression.

With much love,